Author: Stanley Dawejko Jr

This chapter is about not giving up. No matter how bad my life was at this time, I never gave up. I made the best out of it. I pushed through no matter what. Like the title, when life hands you lemons, make lemonade. What I am about to tell is what was going through my mind that made fuel for me to keep going; to stay as positive as I could for what was going on at the time; to be a leader for my family; to be there for them; to keep strong.

Sometimes we feel like there is no way out; like the walls are caving in on us and there is no one to help. Sometimes we feel like we cannot breathe from all the stress we have. We need to strive in our minds to reach our goals, no matter how bad it is. We’ve got to keep strong and let nothing get in our way of getting what we want for our life. Life is to be fun, exciting, peaceful, joyful, loving, and caring. We have to accept the things around us and count our blessings. Life sometimes tries to get the best of you, but only if you let it. Always, no matter how bad it is, try to stay, and think, positive. Find a quiet place and just remember who you are and what you have been through, and keep striving for what you want in life. I think of the things I wrote in this book that came true. My mind keeps going until I find a way of getting out of any situation I am in. I think of my family when I must step up and set an example. I must lead them to the best life. Show people that when you feel like there in nowhere to go, you make a place to go to never give up. This is our lives. We must take control and think of positive words that can fuel us to get through. It is our choice to either think positive or negative. When it comes down to it, why should you ever think negative? We need to always, no matter how tough times get, keep a positive outlook on our lives. As you will see in this chapter, the law of attraction took place in my life in a negative way. It was a spiral effect, and I was able to take control and turn my life around for the better.

This chapter was a big part of my life. I was experiencing what most people feel when they feel like there is nowhere to turn and no one to turn to. I wanted to write on how I was able to get through these times to show people that no matter what, you must keep going. This chapter is really what was taking place at the time, in this moment. I want to sum up my life; what has been going on in the past two years (2007-2008). I have accepted what happened to my family two years ago (2007-2008), with my mom passing away, leaving behind my twenty-year-old brother, twelve-year-old sister, twenty-four-year-old sister, and five-year-old nephew, who was being taken care of by my mother due to my twenty-four-year-old sister being on drugs at the time. I did not have a clue what life had in store for me when this had all taken place. This was going to be a big part of my life.

I want to take you back eight months before my mother’s death. You see, my mother and father were splitting up at this time, and my father moved out of the house with another woman. My mother was going out all the time, so my brother, sister, and nephew were spending time over at my house. In November, 2007, my mother got evicted from her house. At that time, I had no other choice; I was not going to put my mother out on the streets, so I would take in my family to live with me to help my mother get back on her feet.

My mother, at the time, was seeing another guy, so she was staying with him off and on. My father was still living with the same woman at the time. But at the beginning of December, my father was not with the same woman. He moved in with a friend that lived not too far from my house. The middle of December, 2007, my father decided to try to take his life. I got a knock on the door by a lady that my father was staying with at the time, and she told me something had happened to my father; that he was going to be ok; and that he was in the hospital. I rushed up to the hospital to find out what had happened. The doctor said he slit his wrist and took a bottle of pills. He told me he just made it. If another five to ten minutes had passed without him being found, he would not have survived.

I had gone home to collect my thoughts. So much was going through my mind at this time. My family was slowly falling apart at a rapid speed. I got in touch with my mother to let her know what happened. Even though they were not together, my mother still loved my father. She wanted to go up to the hospital to see how he was doing; to make sure everything was ok.

This brought my mother and father back together for a short time. My father moved in with me, as well as my mother and the rest of my family, for the holidays, with Christmas just being around the corner. I had my mortgage company working out of my house still. With the economy going down, and all this going on, it was just bad timing. I had enough money to help my family have a nice Christmas.

At the time, we did not know this was going to be the last Christmas we spent with my mother. Christmas was spent very peaceful; no fighting with my family. We felt like we were going to make it through, and my parents would be able to get back on their feet.

After Christmas came and went, New Year’s Day came and went, and now it was the middle of January, 2008. My parents still were not looking for a new job. This started to frustrate me because I had just gotten an office around the corner from my house to expand to try to make more money. The end of January, my mother was going out all the time and now fighting with my father. I just could not see my mother like this any more. She was coming in high on drugs and hung over from the night before. I told the both of them that they needed to get a job and set an example for the kids because they had been through enough the past year. They both did not want to listen. They continued to ignore me and still went out. I told them if they did not like it they would have to leave. So instead of getting a job to help out, they both moved out and went their separate ways. My father moved back in with his friend, and my mother moved in with her father.

On February 24, 2008, I got a phone call from a friend of my mother stating that my mom was found on the bathroom floor at an after-hours night club, not breathing. She was rushed to the hospital. I gave a call to the hospital to find out she was pronounced dead due to taking drugs. It was a Sunday afternoon when I got the call. My whole family was on the couch watching TV at the time. If you could see the look on my family’s face when I had to break the news.

My world around me was falling apart I thought, as I sat in my room, mad and sad, just thinking of my sisters, brother, and my three-year-old nephew that she left behind. My twenty-four-year-old sister was in jail at the time. I had to stay strong and get my family through this; to be there for them.

My mother’s funeral was a lot harder than I expected. I had to meet and greet everyone at the door, and at the same time, make sure my family was doing ok. I was happy and sad at the same time. I was happy knowing my mother would no longer suffer from what she had put her life through, and sad to know my family would not be able to see my mother anymore and hear her voice ever again. I know my mother is with me. She is one of the reasons why I wanted to write this book. It is so crazy how one day the person you love is here, and the next, gone.

The day my mother passed away, I wanted to tell her some good news. My girlfriend and I made the decision to get married. We were together for four years. I did not have the money at the time to buy a ring, so we both went out for dinner and just agreed it would be best for us. So, at the end of March, we got married. I found out the following month my wife was pregnant with my son, Gavin. I was in shock when she first told me.

When this was all going on, I had an office with five employees. This, along with my mother passing and finding out my wife was pregnant, was a lot at one time to take in. Around April of 2008 is when the banking industry took a turn for the worst, forcing over 100 different banks to go under and making it very difficult to do loans. I started to fall behind on all my bills. I was just able to put food on the table and pay some bills. My house started to go into foreclosure, and my gas got shut off. I did not have a big family. I really did not have anyone to turn to to help out. After my mother’s death, I did not hear from anyone, which to me, I did not understand, because my family knew my situation. I just did not know how to handle it at the time. I took my family in and made sure I took care of them.

My wife and I were not getting along. This was nothing new. She was back and forth from her parent’s house all the time. After a few months of this, we decided it would be best to split up. I still wanted to be there for her and my child, like taking her to her doctor’s appointments, and doing what I could. There was only so much I could take, and this was just the icing on the cake with everything that had gone on all year. I really thought it would be the best for the both of us and our child. I did not want my son seeing us fight all the time and to put him through what I went through with my family growing up.

Towards the end of 2008, I was dead broke, not being able to pay any bills. I had just enough for food, forcing me to close up shop. As you can see, 2008 was a bad year for me, although I learned so much about life at the same time. It was preparing me for what’s to come.

I want to do a recap of what had gone down in 2008: mother passed away, opened a new mortgage company, took care of my family, house went into foreclosure, truck got repossessed, got married, got a divorce, had my baby boy, had no money, and went bankrupt. My life seemed like a ship that was sinking fast. I looked at the big picture from what was going on in my life. I told myself that I was going to do whatever it took to get my life back on track, and from that day on, I never looked back. The same year, I watched a movie called “The Secret About the Law of Attraction.” This movie inspired me to be a better me. I have been studying the law of attraction ever since; reading books, going to seminars, doing whatever it took to keep me involved. I was so interested in the law of attraction.

I have been using the law of attraction my whole life in a negative and a positive way, as you can see, the whole time my life was in shambles. My feelings were focusing on what I did not want to go wrong in my life that I was definitely using the law of attraction, but in the opposite way of what I was wanting. I started to think how, and where, did I go wrong? I am always trying to think and stay positive. I was just confused, but needless to say the law of attraction works by what you are feeling.

So as I took it very seriously, I started to uncover my feelings and started to realize then that my feelings the whole time were just focusing on what I did not want. At that point, I was able to turn my feelings around and head another direction. This is when things started changing for the best. I kept my log every day. All that I was writing down was coming true. I was affirming the law of attraction in my life was working. This book was my blue print, so if something went wrong, I was able to go back to my book to see what it was to fix. At this point, I knew that if I was able to do this, then so could everyone else. From that day on, I knew that I wanted to help change peoples’ lives. At this time, I started to document every-thing that was going on in my life.

With all the job layoffs, no one was hiring. I knew if I wanted a job, I would get one. Sure enough, a month before Christmas, I found a new job at a big mortgage bank that did their own loans. They had over 100 different loan officers. I thought this place was booming compared to what was going on in the economy. I wanted to apply the law of attraction to attract more customers. Mind you, this was a non salary job. It was all commission-based. I needed to close loans in order to get paid. Within the two months of being there, I was able to make enough money to get my house out of foreclosure. I was averaging $7,000 a month at the speed I was going.

By the third month, I was doing so well at my new job I was able to make enough money to buy a car with cash. Things were really starting to turn around for me. After being at this job for six months, I got caught up on all my bills, and my family was doing great. My family seemed like they were able to smile again. Now, as far as I can remember, I was always using the law of attraction. Take, for example, at the age of twenty-four, I bought a house and my dream car, and with all of this, I started from nothing. After I bought my house, I fixed it up and had over $60,000 in equity, which is when I refinanced my house and took out some money to open my mortgage company. That was all done using the law of attraction. This showed me that whatever you put your mind to, you can conquer. I wanted to have proof of what I did and how I changed what was going on in my life. I did not know at this time that I wanted to write a book. As a year went by, my life started to change. I really started to get in touch with my inner self. I started to feel peaceful and so thankful for what I had going on in my life. I started to really study the law of attraction. A book by the name of “Beyond the Secret,” by Dr Lisa Love, was like my Bible. I took it everywhere with me. After reading this book a few times, I really started to know what I wanted for my life. I wanted to write a book to show people you can get through anything as long as you put your mind to it. You can accomplish anything. I started collecting all of my proof from what had happened in my life and wanted to stick it into this book. I knew that I could help people with everything that I have been through. I knew that I could relate to a good percentage of people in this world. I did not know where to start. One night I was up late and could not fall asleep. I just got up, opened my computer, and started to write.

So now my book was on its way. It took me some time to get this finished, but I did not want to rush this book at all. I wanted it to be the best book I could ever write and make sure I could capture the attention of people; to get you to really feel what I had went through, and to help draw you in so I could have an impact on your life. I wanted to help you get through whatever it is that you need to get through; to live your dreams and make sure you read my book, and to have a smile on your face knowing that you are not the only one in this world that thinks no one cares, because I do, or I would not be writing this book.

This book is going to show you how, and what, I did to apply the law of attraction, how I got out of foreclosure, how I built a great savings account, how I got caught up on my bills, how I was able to pay cash for a car, and best of all, how I got rich with my soul. This book will show you what you need to do to get the same results. I believe we are all equal. No one else is better. We are all the same. If I did it, you can do it. I want you to become the best person you can be in this world; to be able to show others just like me how you were able to get to your dreams being able to make this world a better place. I want you to strive and to never give up. I never gave up, and now you are reading my book. This book is the best proof of how law of attraction works.

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When Life Hands You Lemons, Make Lemonade

Do not be a wordaholic by the words you are using. If you catch yourself using negative words all the time, you are a wordaholic. This chapter is going to be one of the most important chapters of this book. Words are what we use for everything in life. Words are what we use to point people in the right direction. We use them to discipline our children; to show them right from wrong. We use them toward our companionship with the way we put words together to tell them how much we love them. Words help us create great and exciting feelings by what word we choose to use. We use words in music for us to hear and enjoy, by what words were used in the song and how it made us feel. In many aspects, words can be either your best friend or your worst enemy. When you think about it, words are like a brick wall in a way. The words that flow through your mind are what drives us to what we wear, what shoes we like, what kind of job we want; do we want to be a professional athlete, a lawyer, doctor, race car driver, etc. The words, what we tell ourselves every day, is what holds us back from becoming what we really want. Like I said, words are like a brick wall by what words we put in our way of keeping us from that dream job or being the next Michael Jordan. We get used to using negative words that seems like roadblock after roadblock. We need to redirect our words from what we use to tell ourselves every day.

How are we going to be able to be a doctor or lawyer by telling ourselves, “I can’t be a doctor. I am not smart enough. I don’t have the money to go to college. I was raised in a poor family. My parents cannot afford to put me through school. Even if I went to college, I do not think I would be able to stay in college long enough.” You see, all of these are roadblocks that we tell ourselves to keep us from achieving the things we want in life. The day you decide to stop putting up roadblocks and brick walls is the first step towards your next dream job or being the next Michael Jordan. Do you think Michael Jordan used words like, “I will never be able to play on an NBA team. I am not good enough to play professional basketball. Even if I was good enough, how would I ever be able to play in the NBA? Where I live, no one has ever made it to the NBA.” Do not let these words be your brick wall, your roadblock from where you want to be in life. You are in control of your life 24/7. If you are not getting the results you are looking for in your life, no matter what it is, then you need to reprogram your words from what is not getting you the results you are looking for.

We control how and what we want to do by what we say to ourselves. At times, we might have ideas that we want to act on, but we let these roadblocks get in our way by our words. We need to redirect our words so we can get to the destination of what we want to accomplish. We get used to going right to the negative words of what we think. What happens is we start playing situations in our minds of what people will think and say, and half the time, if you would just listen to yourself talk, you will see how negative the words are. We need to rephrase those words as if the words were really going to take action and be the key to open each door we want to open, and truly believe in what we are saying, and keep going with the most positive words we can feed us. If you really look at it, words are our food. We need them to survive. Without them, our minds would be searching, and it does not know what we are searching for. Redirect the words, and you will redirect your life in the best way that you could ever imagine. Practice every day with saying positive statements; with redirecting your words with positive patterns.

Get excited about the words you are telling yourself, from the time you wake up until the time you go to bed. If you are not excited by the words you are telling yourself, then you got caught up in the process of getting used to settling for less and not the best for yourself. Why not treat yourself as a king or a princess. I got news for you, it is you that is telling yourself these things. I will guarantee when you start using positive words in your mind, you will start changing your world on the outside. Your world will be customized by the words you are telling yourself; by the feeling you get by what you are telling yourself, and the law of attraction will match that feeling up and give you your match. Get excited. You are the best person in the world; the smartest person in this world; the best looking and loving person ever to live. You are not just smart and funny, but you are the creator of your life. Start shaping your world as if you just drew it on a piece of paper by the words you say to yourself.

Your words and your visions are really important for you to understand because these two chapters are really going to help you achieve your dreams. What kind of words you are using to fuel your vision is important. If you are having roadblocks with your words, your vision of what you are wanting will not be able to manifest because of the words you are using. You want to try the best you can by watching what you say to yourself. Also, do you ever catch yourself listening to a song, and all day you have it in your head, and you can’t stop repeating the lyrics? Watch what kind of music you are listening to because that could be a trap of negative words going into your mind without you realizing it. So just be a little picky of what kind of music you are listening to.

Examples of how your words fuel your vision:

This statement you are saying would be fueling your vision of buying a new house.

•I want to get a higher paying job so I will be able to afford the house I want.

This statement you are saying would be fueling your new business.

•I am going to put in overtime at my job so I can put away some extra money to open my own business next year.

This statement you are saying would be fueling the vision of you losing weight.

•I will do whatever it takes to lose fifteen pounds. I will run an extra mile every day. I will cut back on the food that I eat. I am dedicated to losing the weight I want to lose. I want to be consistent.

You see, these are the words fueling your vision of what you are wanting. As you are getting closer to what you are wanting, your feelings are getting you excited, feeling as if you’re making progress; making that feeling that you had in the beginning consistent with the vision; making the law of attraction match that feeling of what you are wanting. You see, you are keeping yourself happy and excited on a consistent basis and affirming what you are wanting by writing it down every day. This is going to help you move into the direction of what you are wanting. Make sure you are using positive statements to fuel your vision.

This exercise is going to show you what kind of words you are saying to yourself for your roadblocks. We want to uncover why you are not getting the results you are looking for. Now, you want to be 100% honest with yourself for what kind of words you are telling yourself. I would buy a notebook and keep track. First, I would write down what your goal is that you are trying to achieve, but I want you to write this down as if you never read this book. This will show you where your thought patterns are. On the right side, put the date. On the next line, you want to list all the words and feelings about your goal. I want you to list all the words that you have been telling yourself about this goal; what kind of thoughts have been coming into play. I want you to think as far back as you can remember when you are writing these words down. I want you to really write as much as you can. Get into detail about your goal, how you want to conquer this goal, why this goal will help you in life, how it will make you feel, etc. This will start your blue prints for your goals.

After you are all finished, I want you to read it, and I want you to circle all the roadblocks that you think are in the way of you not achieving your goal. Now, I am going to supply you with some positive statements that I would like you to use. After you are done reading this chapter, I want you to rewrite your goal statement and see the difference. For here on out, I want you to picture a brick. These bricks will reflect a negative word. Every time you are using a negative word, you are adding to and building a brick wall. After you catch yourself, rephrase it with using a positive word to remove that brick.

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Wordaholic: No More Roadblocks